Expectations are the mother of discontent

May 11, 2014

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So were men consulted when mother’s day was invented? Did they agree to the deal or was it simply a unilateral contract? Maybe it seems unfair to some that they have to be on their best behavior the whole day?

What’s up with “I” have to do everything around the house? The whole 24 hours?

I imagine a tiny voice grumbling.

I expect the same thing on father’s day then.

Maybe it will work better if the mother is removed from the environment of the house then there’s no hard feeling going around about who’s doing what on the day when all the commercials make you believe that we’re all supposed to be waited on hand and foot without lifting a finger, that all our whims are catered to, etc. It seems such a drag for all involved. The crushing weight of expectations. A stifling cloud of unspoken, unjustified disappointment hanging.

Maybe it should just be mother’s morning? Mother’s luncheon? Till after lunch? And then everything goes back to normal? To be honest, I can’t wait for this day to be over myself so I can go back to doing things per life dealt me instead of having to wait until Monday.

Most likely this is just another whining episode of first world problems when so many mothers out there genuinely deserve and need a break. I wonder whether you would consider joining me in making donations to non-profit organizations that land a helping hand to women, especially mothers? From Heifer International, Women to Women, to Help A Mother Out (Did you know that the simple act of donating diapers can help change somebody’s life for the better?)

Have a truly happy, contented, mother’s day!

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D. A. Wolf May 13, 2014 at 12:14 pm

What you refer to as a whining episode may also be a legitimate (and wide-spread) source of grumbling. A small amount of attentiveness to the “everything” that mothers do daily would be most welcome… 365 days/year.
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Absence Alternatives May 13, 2014 at 9:34 pm

Thank you! Sometimes all that is needed is a simple thank you. It’s this need to feel “not being taken for granted”.

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Jack June 3, 2014 at 1:13 am

I’d be happy to skip Father’s Day, especially if it saves me from trying to coordinate 18 thousand different family members.
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Absence Alternatives June 25, 2014 at 6:43 pm

All these days… I do think it makes sense to honor mothers and fathers that really work hard to be there for their kids, or people who are being mothers to those who otherwise have no one there for them.

Yup. They often end up being hassles and potential minefields…

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