A Love Song for Sandi

May 12, 2011

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A dear dear friend recently had a medical scare. She is home safe now but I did not know about this until tonight.

Sandi over at Being Peachy and its wicked twin The Pits of Being Peachy had a heart attack and drove herself to the hospital. At this moment I am confused about the sequence of the events since I learned of her heart attack, her subsequent stay in the hospital, and her finally being able to go home all from posts by friends on her Facebook.

Her dear sweet husband, the one that she occasionally makes fun of her on her blogs, posted an update for her today. This post made me laugh, smile and cry at the same time:

Lloyd started by saying, “She is not dead,” on behalf of Sandi, and that’s 100% Sandi. And then Lloyd showed us the reason why someone so beautiful and caring and loving and passionate about life with a big heart and a great sense of humor such as Sandi fell in love with and chose him to spend the rest of her life with:

Thank you for caring about my wife, and my kids. They mean the world to me. Your thoughts, well wishes, tweets, texts, wall posts, and blogs kept her phone going off in my pocket all day long, and I saw her sense of humor coming through in your words.


I don’t remember exactly when and how Sandi and I found each other on the Interweb. But as soon as we did, there was an instant bond (forgive me for the cliche…). The first time we exchanged Facebook messages, they were long. Long with lots of run-on sentences like the kind of you wrote back and forth with your best buddies in high school. I fell in love (and trust) with her when she sent me the Friendship Disclaimer which she later turned into a video.

She is nuts. She is passionate. She goes all out for her friends and families. She is fierce. She is kind. She is loving. She is the forces of nature. She is a lady. Woa woa woa she’s a lady.

(Here is the part when you throw your underwears to me on stage. Thank you very much.)


She talked me off of a ledge once. Or maybe twice. She created a space on her blog called “You Write Here” for bloggers and non-bloggers who wish to get something off of their chests but for one reason or another they cannot do so openly or even on their own blogs. And most of us did not realize that she has been going through a lot. Much more heartbreaking, much more difficult shit that she has been shouldering than she let on. When I read that post, I was like, “WTF? Why did I bitch about my life in front of her? And why did she not tell me to STFU? Compared to what she has been going through, my life is indeed peachy…”

This event threw me off balance. I KNOW I have come to think of and care about most of you as real friends. But it was not until the shock and the relief that hit me that I realized, WOW. THIS is for realz. What we have going on here. THIS. IS. FOR. REAL.

Dear Sandi, to quote your best bud Anissa, ” NOT dead FTW.” Here is a song for you, “Your Song”, that I stole from Elton John. I don’t think he cares now that he has a baby and should NOT be getting any sleep. So it is YOUR song now. You are welcome.


And to continue our cheesy high school girl love affair, I am going to quote you some of the lyrics from YOUR SONG. Are you ready? Ok, here it goes:

And you can tell everybody this is your song
It may be quite simple but now that it’s done
I hope you don’t mind
I hope you don’t mind that I put down in words
How wonderful life is while you’re in the world

(And yes, baby, you keep the sun turned on, in addition to many other things…)


Beka May 16, 2011 at 2:22 pm

What a great tribute to your friend! Makes me want to hustle my butt over to her blog, as soon as I can. I’ve had so many internet friends turn “real” in one way or another. It doesn’t matter how we meet them; we just have to recognize the important people in our lives and let them know they matter. You have certainly just done that.
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The Animated Woman May 15, 2011 at 11:44 am

Beautiful post for Sandi. What a good friend you are =]
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linlah May 14, 2011 at 3:41 pm

That’s the best blog hug I’ve ever read.
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secret agent woman May 14, 2011 at 11:52 am

Friends sure are treasures, aren’t they?
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Wicked Shawn May 14, 2011 at 6:17 am

Such a moving post. Too often we fail to let people know what a profound impact they have had in our lives. One of the reasons I love you is you don’t let that happen. So, just to make sure, you know how much I adore you, right? You, my dear, are priceless. (I totally typed that while channelling a Kate Hepburn voice)
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ThePeachy1 May 14, 2011 at 1:26 am

Ok, first, you know I love you like fun dip in vodka, so don’t go making me get all snotty and stuff. Plus I totally know these panties with the double seam tape on the elastic are yours. This post was touching. Not in the “OMG I need an adult way” either which is seriously good because I have a big nasty freaking bruise on my groin from a little Italian heart surgeon who didn’t even kiss me before he shoved 6 feet of metal up me. I am not back yet, because I am trying to figure out how to do this ” bed rest” stuff. But “Sam I Am” said I couldn’t die on her birthday or she would dump my ashes on a fat peoples nudist beach. ICK. Today she graduated from college (I produced that ! woohoo ME!) So I love you, as you know, and this post is awesome and so is the song, and when I get back on line I will have to offer you whatever organ I have that is worth anything, ( ha ha good luck with that). But here’s the song I had in mind for us.
It was me and the posse
With Bunny D
We were cruisin in the Jag or the Lambourghinis
When low and behold there appeared a mirage
Weird right? Like almost exactly the same thing? If you’re under heavy meds.
love you babe, you rock, but you know that, because I told you so already…xo PEACH OUT.
He was hooking up a car in his daddys garage
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absence of Alternatives May 15, 2011 at 11:37 am

I told people you are nuts, the awesome kind of nuts, and I am so glad you still are, despite the groin operation. ^_^

Now get back into bed lady! Are you still a shade of purple? That’s my favorite color you know. xxoo

Linda @ Bar Mitzvahzilla May 14, 2011 at 12:30 am

What a lovely tribute to a good friend! Here’s hoping for her continued improvement!
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Naptimewriting May 13, 2011 at 10:42 pm

You’re nice. I like that people like you tell other people that the world is better for having them in it. You make the world nicer. Really.

Also, Elton John makes me cry. So you made me cry then he made me cry and I kind of blame you for making me cry twice. Because Elton didn’t exactly come into my living room to make me cry. You invited him here. So you kind of suck. A little. In addition to the being nice thing.
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writerwoman61 May 13, 2011 at 7:36 pm

One of my favourite Elton John songs…hope your friend comes through her health issues all right, Lin!

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MacDougal Street Baby May 13, 2011 at 5:32 pm

Behold the power of blog.

Mary Lee May 13, 2011 at 5:07 pm

I must go back and read the post again to make an appropriate comment. Right now I want to know, “HOLY COW! HOW OLD WAS ELTON THERE????”

I do remember when you used the lifeline.

I loved that Sandi’s husband posted for her. And that you are writing ABOUT her. Must be a very special lady.
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pattypunker May 13, 2011 at 9:32 am

this was a tear-jerker! damnit. i love sandi and can’t believe this happened to her on top of everything else she has had to deal with. i can’t believe i’ve ever complained to her either! she’s so giving and special, and so deserving of this beautiful ode to sandi!
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Elly Lou May 13, 2011 at 9:31 am

I’ve been following this and fretting quietly from the sidelines. I’ve never really interacted with Sandi, but I love her wit. And I’m glad you wrote about it, because I feel I can comment here and finally say out loud I am so glad she is home. And that this little blogging community is so beautiful and invested in one another.
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Renee Fisher May 13, 2011 at 8:13 am

Such a touching expression of love and friendship. Healing energy goes out to Sandi. And now, I shall read her blog!
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kathy May 13, 2011 at 6:30 am

Ah, how wonderful to have a dear friend like Sandi. Good to know she’s home and feeling better. I look forward to checking out her blog.
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dufmanno May 12, 2011 at 6:11 pm

I’m embarassed to say I had never read her blog until I saw the post her husband typed to update everyone on her condition but I love it when someone beats back the adversity, stands up and LIVES!!!!
Driving yourself to the hospital with a heart attack is about as hardcore as you get.
She’s my new hero.
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Jeane May 12, 2011 at 4:58 pm

Your love and concern are so beautiful. I hope your friend is well soon and am glad she such wonderful friends and family. My thoughts are with you all.
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Meg at the Members Lounge May 12, 2011 at 4:17 pm

I must go get to know Sandi now. Because you have the best blogroll, ever.
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Andrea May 12, 2011 at 4:02 pm

Awww, what a wonderful post. Now I want to get to know her too!

It is for real, isn’t it? This internet stuff? These bloggy people? Sometimes I feel like I’ve made you all up.
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Vinny C May 12, 2011 at 12:10 pm

I found out about this only last night too. I couldn’t believe it. I’m glad she’s doing better.

A Vapid Blonde May 12, 2011 at 10:42 am

What an awesome post for an awesome woman by an awesome woman!

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SisterMerryHellish May 12, 2011 at 9:36 am

Really, things like this make every stupid thing I complain about seem petty and trivial. Which they are.

So glad she’s ok! And that she has friends like you to make her husbands pants vibrate while she’s laid up.

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Justine May 12, 2011 at 9:09 am

Awwww….I don’t know Sandi but this post makes me want to get to know her. I’m certainly glad she’s OK. And that she has a friend in you. You’re a good egg 🙂
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