A Night with the Band (with Twitter along the way)

April 24, 2011

in mark my word: twitter will doom us all,therapy in session

Friday, 22-April-2011

22:03:12 On my way to see the band The Boxer Rebellion that started at 10. It’s 10 now. Am nowhere near Double Door the bar/concert venue. Panic attack

22:04:58 I’m going by myself again. [I went to see them for the first time last September]. With extra tickets. Maybe I’ll give the ticket 2 some random passerby, reassuring them that they don’t have 2 talk 2 me

22:06:38 Forgive me 4 tweeting you sweet nothing nonstop. Going 2 see band by myself. Not yet used 2 it. Started having panic attack early on.

22:09:11 Tweeting helps calm my nerves. Like I have someone w me. Anybody write an academic paper about social media? Invisible Strangers as entourage?

22:11:27 I almost didn’t. Panic attack. Would’ve been easier 2 just stay home. I kept on delaying till husb said, Why are you still here? Get the F out!

22:13:59 It’s just a band. Not a big deal. After the last time [and the first time when I went to see them also by myself], I now know there’s no risk of me having to struggle to say no if a band member asks me to elope with him [because it did not happen and it will never happen, of course.]

[I actually felt quite embarrassed going all gaga when I met them last September for the first time. I think I managed to keep my excitement under wrap, appearing to be nonchalant. Not that it would have made any difference, but all four band members are married. More importantly, they don’t seem to be that kind of band attracting crazy psychotic screaming fans.]

[Fine. I guess telling people that their song “Flashing Red Light Means Go” saved your soul is by no means being nonchalant… How pathetic it was to have failed at being nonchalant in front of your favorite band?]


22:42:21 @SunnySingsBlues Thanks! I’m in! One vodka cranberry down and I’m one cool kitty. Inside my head at least!

22:46:47 @SunnySingsBlues Thanks!!! I am on 2nsd Vodka cranberry! [Less than 5 minutes. I was rather impressed by myself too!]

22:59:22 At the Boxer Rebellion concert! Sold out bitches!  [From “OMG I don’t know what to do. I am so scared I don’t want to go!” to rubbing it in people’s faces. All in under one hour…]


The Boxer Rebellion at Double Door


[From @deathbydonkey: Hope you’re having fun. Solo concert outings can rock if you just go with it. It beats dealing with a non-fan companion, anyway.]

23:14:02 @deathbydonkey OMG. Totally agree!!!!

[And that’s why when The Husband said “Go and have fun by yourself!” I did not cry. I would have been so worried about him or whichever person I managed to drag with me not having fun and unable to fully enjoy the experience]


23:14:57 @melme thank you. Tweeps are the best people to go to concert with!!

[From @melme: Damn right!! Woo! Take it off!! 😉 ]

23:28:42 @melme Ok! Let’s just say I did! LOL


[Tried not to tweet too much during the concert. Most of the time I had my eyes closed and it felt like I was there all alone, with the band. Just the music pounding, pouring, seeping into every fiber. The most gratifying thing to witness was how much fun they’re having on stage. It almost made me feel jealous. I wish I could play an instrument, or sing, or paint, or sew, just anything really.]


Saturday, 23-April 2011

00:24:50 @doubledoor Here’s a shout out to Mark the bartender who loves his job and Andy who’s adorable!!!

[Here I was sufficiently buzzed that I became extremely friendly and talkative, in a non-slutty way, at least I hope so… I was even able to talk to Mark at the bar. Probably because he called me Sweet Heart. I wished him a happy weekend, to that he replied, “I will be working though.” I asked, “But not bad if you love your job, right?” A pause. “Yes, I do love my job.” “Well, that’s more than what a lot of people could say.” He nodded somberly.]

[Regarding “Sweet Heart”: I knew not to get carried away by terms of endearment such as this. That’s merely a sign that I have aged. When you reach a certain age, people start being nice to you and calling you “Sweet heart” “Young lady”, thinking they are doing you a favor. Don’t get me wrong. I appreciate that.]

00:25:44 I’m at the “I am lucid but I care no shit” stage. 5 vodka cranberry later.

[See? Tru dat!]


00:29:50 It’s endearing when the band is small enough that they are at the mercy table to talk to the fans

[It’s supposed to be MERCH, for “merchandise”, table. But the typo was kind of correct in the way that the bands are at the mercy of their fans when they are on their way to make it]



[They’re really really awesome and sweet. I did tell Todd the lead guitarist (See? I am hinting that I am on the first name basis with the band!) that I am a psychotic fan. ZOMG. I really should have kept my mouth shut. But I cannot control what comes out of my mouth whenever I am nervous. Perhaps next time I should preemptively put my foot in my mouth… He asked me what my Twitter handle was. “So, you are subWOW?!” Ok, he probably did NOT sound that excited. Just let me think that he did, ‘k? He and Piers the drummer (pretended to) remember meeting me last year. See? I told you they are very kind…]


Todd and Piers at The Empty Bottle last September

Me as an apparition (last September)


[Here’s something else that I told Todd, “I look forward to the day when you are so huge that I would no longer get to talk to you like this.” And I mean it.]


00:45:24 Asked the band mebers of @BoxerRebellion to sign my arm, Nathan the lead singer responsibly told me I’d regret it. We shall see.


Picture from last time: Todd & the lead Singer Nathan who told me this time that I'd regret having them sign my arm. Nathan's a Southern gentleman, naturally.


01:06:15 Do people know, for realz, in details, what they have to give up when they have kids and move to the burbs?

01:08:21 Like a pseudo bipolar that I’m, I’m coming down from the high from talking to my favorite band straight to the pit.

01:09:31 On the train back to the burbs. Feeling like being turned back into a pumpkin. Do men feel the same way too?

[Before I stumbled off the train, I saw this guy with a big giant tattered duffel bag eating peanut butter out of the jar. I have no idea what came over me, not pity nor sympathy. I think it was closer to a sudden surge of love that I felt towards my fellow human beings. I pulled out a $20 bill and handed it to him. “Happy Easter!” I said, and I quickly ran off. He did not even look up but smiled to himself.]


[Intermission: Driving. I really did not want to be turned back into a pumpkin…]


01:43:06 2 am. At the quintessential American melting place: highway oasis. Here everyone is passing by



01:46:25 I do appreciate the fact that my husb is ok letting me out by myself being a tramp.

01:48:37 Sitting here at the empty oasis, I’m humming Hallelujah. I’m not even Christian…

01:59:25 I really like the oasis like this: quiet, with free Wi-Fi. I enjoy watching the cars, imaging jumping off. Of course I won’t.

[Did you know this French word, L’appel du vide? “The call of the void” would be the literal translation. It refers to the urge to jump from high places…]


02:35:00 Listened to Queen’s A Night at the Opera all the way home. Truly my favorite album. What I would not give to watch Freddie Mercury live.

02:59:18 You know how they made Mama Mia with Abba song? Someone should make a musical based A Night at the Opera.

03:00:50 Why? Yes! I have been sitting in the garage listening to A Night at the Opera since I got home. How did you know?




p.s. I did update the tweets to correct the typos and grammars, update the abbreviations, so it is easier to read and understand.


dufmanno May 1, 2011 at 6:27 pm

I am now a huge fan of going to see bands solo. It took years for me to feel comfortable by myself and to not feel like I needed to find something to do with my hands and a place to rest my eyes that made it appear that someone WOULD be meeting me there ANY MINUTE NOW.
The last few venues I’ve been to have been so crowded that no one could have told me if I was alone or with a group of 50.
I wish I had been there cause you KNOW I would have scooped up those extra tix!
By the way, you look knee pad worthy gorgeous in the photo with your arm signed. I’m surprised you didn’t get an invite on the tour bus.
Woo woo. Ride the train.
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Absence Alternatives May 2, 2011 at 12:35 am

You have been an inspiration and moral/spiritual supporter that enabled me to do this without shitting my pants. xxoo

Nance April 26, 2011 at 7:57 pm

Here comes a Southern term: Honey, you’re a hoot!
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Absence Alternatives April 26, 2011 at 11:32 pm

Thank you. 🙂

The Flying Chalupa April 26, 2011 at 6:19 pm

This was hilarious. I’m so impressed you went by yourself and that the band KNOWS YOU. Dude, the lead singer is hot (pronounced with a “ch”). Twitter is always there for one. It’s so comforting.

Absence Alternatives April 26, 2011 at 11:32 pm

Yes I’ve come to rely on Twitter in a way that all these social media “gurus” do not talk about.

I actually have not talked to the lead singer. I guess I left him to the real fangirls to maul or whatever. 😉 My heart is with the lead guitarist and the drummer because their drumming bit during the song Flashing Red Light Means Go really stole my heart.

meleah rebeccah April 26, 2011 at 3:57 pm

“Most of the time I had my eyes closed and it felt like I was there all alone, with the band. Just the music pounding, pouring, seeping into every fiber. The most gratifying thing to witness was how much fun they’re having on stage. It almost made me feel jealous. I wish I could play an instrument, or sing, or paint, or sew, just anything really.”

You, can. And you do.

You WRITE, like a rockstar!

Absence Alternatives April 26, 2011 at 11:29 pm


Meg at the Members Lounge April 26, 2011 at 2:58 pm

Waay cool! Love your tweet about the late Freddie Mercury – saw him at the Boston Garden in 1976. .. Ahh, the days of general admission and squeezing your way to the stage!
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Absence Alternatives April 26, 2011 at 11:29 pm

That’s when you were like 5 right?! 😉


Star Traci April 26, 2011 at 10:44 am

Yay for you! I have been to movies by myself but I have never been brave enough to go to a show like that on my own. You are my hero! It’s funny how Twitter, FB, blogs, etc. really make us feel less alone in the world. So glad that you tweeted your way through a great night!
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Absence Alternatives April 26, 2011 at 11:28 pm

Thanks! I used to go to the movies by myself all the time too when I was in college (that’s like NOT that long ago. LOL) esp. for the European films? Yup, I’d rather be there by myself than having to listen to someone whine about how nothing made sense in the movie…

Wicked Shawn April 26, 2011 at 9:52 am

I LOVE this so much. I wish I had been there with you! Or at least on the Twitter so I could experience it with you.

You are beautiful!
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Absence Alternatives April 26, 2011 at 11:27 pm

You were there m’lady. You were. 🙂

writerwoman61 April 26, 2011 at 8:57 am

Good for you for going to the concert anyway, Lin!

Queen is Jim’s favourite band in the world…we went to a tribute show to them last year, which was very good…there was one number where “Freddie Mercury” was in drag, and came down and stood in the empty seat right in front of us! Jim almost got a “lap dance”!

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Absence Alternatives April 26, 2011 at 11:27 pm

A tribute band! That’s going to be as close as I can get eh? I should look out for one.

SisterMerryHellish April 26, 2011 at 8:21 am

If I lived even remotely close your husband would be “Where the F are you going AGAIN?!”

And my Morgan Freeman you’re breathtaking! Love you!
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Absence Alternatives April 26, 2011 at 11:26 pm

Then it’s good that he travels 50%. LOL. 😉 Love you back.

Suniverse April 25, 2011 at 7:58 pm

Your life is FANTASTIC.


I’m envious.
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Absence Alternatives April 25, 2011 at 11:44 pm

It took me several years to realize that I need to get out there even if I have to do it by myself. 🙂

secret agent woman April 25, 2011 at 3:30 pm

I don’t do Twitter, but I have been known to narrate an experience through text messages. I have gone to several shows on my own since I’ve been divorced. I feel a bit ore conspicuous in indoor venues. But I doubt anyone actually notices.

Absence Alternatives April 25, 2011 at 11:43 pm

I am extremely self-conscious. That’s why I made a beeline to the bar as soon as I got there and downed 2 glasses of vodka cran in 5 minutes. Now I am ready to go!

kathy April 25, 2011 at 2:55 pm

Gotta love post of tweets! Great idea, Lin!
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Absence Alternatives April 25, 2011 at 11:42 pm

Thanks. Really was just being lazy… *don’t tell anybody*

Mama Zen April 25, 2011 at 12:48 pm

You know that they would totally screw up A Night at the Opera, right?
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Absence Alternatives April 25, 2011 at 11:40 pm

you are absolutely right. Absolutely right.

lifeintheboomerlane April 25, 2011 at 10:38 am

Wow, how amazing that we now get to bring others along with us on our great adventures. Uh, some of them.
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Absence Alternatives April 25, 2011 at 11:40 pm

Yes! Better ride if with booze too! MAD approved.

BigLittleWolf April 25, 2011 at 9:50 am

You wild fan, you! (I can’t remember the last time I went to a concert.) L’Appel du Vide? A little “vide” would be nice if it meant I could find things in my house again. Personally, it sounds like L’appel de l’Instinct Animal might be more in order… 🙂 and less dangerous.

Or not.
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Absence Alternatives April 25, 2011 at 11:39 pm

Less dangerous indeed. LOL.

Elly Lou April 25, 2011 at 7:38 am

You really don’t ever sleep, do you?
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Absence Alternatives April 25, 2011 at 11:38 pm

Now who’s accusing whom of not sleeping? I bet that tummy of yours is not making it any easier to sleep either. LOL

jotter girl April 25, 2011 at 6:24 am

Thanks for giving me a night out! I love having a connection to a band….there’s nothing like live music. Glad you had a great time.
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Absence Alternatives April 25, 2011 at 11:38 pm

You are welcome m’lady. Thank you for coming along for the ride. 😉

Jeane April 24, 2011 at 11:23 pm

Oh…I think we might be musical soul sisters. Such a awesome post and so fun to listen to you get wrapped up in the music! Your words let me imagine I was right there with you. The Boxer Rebellion…great sound.
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Absence Alternatives April 25, 2011 at 11:37 pm

Thank you! I hope you check out their songs and that you enjoy them too!

alonewithcats April 24, 2011 at 9:13 pm

We all have an inner groupie (and cat lady) just dying to get out.

And I am *so* with you about Freddie Mercury.
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Absence Alternatives April 25, 2011 at 11:37 pm

Yes! Freddie FTW! So sad that I will never ever get to see him perform live. You think he may come back as a zombie rockstar?

Andrea April 24, 2011 at 7:45 pm

I love this post! I have been to concerts and left feeling exactly that way – like the music wraps around you and unites your soul with everyone else. But I have never MET the band!!! Holy shit, you do it right! Thank you for letting us be a part of it even if we couldn’t be there. 🙂
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Absence Alternatives April 25, 2011 at 11:36 pm

Next time you are coming with me m’lady! Solo is fine and dandy but I know it would have been a lot more fun if you were there!

Nicole Welkener April 24, 2011 at 6:57 pm

Wow, this was bad ass. For several reasons.
1) You went to a concert by yourself….an accomplishment I didn’t know I wanted to achieve that is now added to the ubiquitous “Bucket List”.
2) You composed an article completely out of Tweets and side notes.
3) Your thoughts reel me in and seem familiar, as though I’ve thought them myself.

The list could go on and on but you know, save for another session. 😉

Congrats on overcoming the panic attack! (And [#4] for the 2nd cranberry vodka in less than 5 minutes)

Absence Alternatives April 25, 2011 at 11:35 pm

Thank you for the cheering!

The Sweetest April 24, 2011 at 6:51 pm

Ah, the days of solo concerts. In Austin, I use to go see bands by myself all the time. And then I met my would-be husband who happened to want to go with me. 🙂
And now I can’t stay up late enough to go see anything. I do remember, going to a show alone, that mixed feeling of independence and shame. Wanting to blend in so nobody would know I was there alone, but also a little bit proud of myself,
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Absence Alternatives April 25, 2011 at 11:35 pm

The hardest part really is before I step in that bar. As soon as the band starts playing, I don’t really care any more. 🙂

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