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Raised by My Child

  “All children alarm their parents, if only because you are forever expecting to encounter yourself.”   -- Gore Vidal   This is going to make me sound like an awful mother, ok, more than usual. I know many of you who are kind enough to read my blog on a regular basis adore my precocious youngest child. [...]


The trouble with trying to raise conscientious kids is that I am absolutely not perfect. As a matter of fact, on some days, in some moments, I am absolutely the worst. And my kids would not hesitate to call me out on it. In fact, I believe they cannot wait to catch me with my foot in [...]

The Ice Cream Index

Earlier today I learned of these numbers today from Mature Landscaping: Salary of retired US Presidents ...............$180,000 FOR LIFE Salary of House/Senate ..........................$174,00​0 FOR LIFE Salary of Speaker of the House ................$223,500 FOR LIFE Salary of Majority/Minority Leaders ...... $193,400 FOR LIFE Average Salary of a teacher .................... $40,065 Average Salary of Soldier DEPLOYED IN [...]

The Lesser of Two Evils

Yet another interesting conversation with my 8-year-old that makes me worry... [In the car] Mr. Monk: Mom? Me [Distracted by This American Life on NPR]: Huh? Mr. Monk: What's the drug that starts with an M? Me [Paying attention now]: Eh... You mean Methamphetamine? [Crap! How did he know about Meth?!] Mr. Monk: You know what [...]

My 8-year-old, known as Mr. Monk here, is singing a song that he improvises right now. In the middle of the Kaleidoscopic of lyrics, I heard,     I chuckled. "I honestly do not know how to take that." "Well, don't take it as an insult. I am not being sarcastic." "Well, thank you." I said while [...]

A Reason as Good as Any

Conversations that happened yesterday... (Proving that thank goodness I work fulltime so I don't spend too much time talking to my kids...)   [On the way to lunch] 13-year-old: My friend is jealous. He thinks we have the coolest license plate ever! [Be rest assured: It is dorky.] 8-year-old: Oh, mom, we should keep this [...]

Because of my racial/ethnic/cultural/educational make-up, I do not watch what I tell my children: I tend to over-explain everything and over-analyze everything for them. I also like to point out instances of racial/cultural prejudices and stereotypes disregarding whether they may be too young for such identity politics theory talks. Sometimes I feel sorry for them 'cause [...]


My firstborn is thirteen today. It's official: I now have a bona fide teenager on my hand. I am still wavering about whether I should have made this birthday into a big deal or not. I hope he was not expecting a big to-do. I hope he was not expecting a PlayStation 3 this morning as he [...]

Mass at 5

Warning: According to my Blog Advisory System, this post is rated RED for The Touchiest of All Touchy Subjects. I wrote it last week but did not have the heart to publish it because I was worried about losing readership. In the end though, I have got to do what feels right by me and [...]