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this i believe

Old Soul

October 12, 2011 no manual for parenting

My 8 year old, Mr. Monk, is on a “Back to the Future” kind of mission lately. He’s acquired two rotary phones earlier this year for a buck each at a garage sale. Probably my fault for I might have explained to him, with too much excitement, how we used to hate folks’ phone numbers […]


A Beautiful Mind

October 5, 2011 this i believe

  Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things […]


I’ve never been to me*

September 21, 2011 therapy in session

This post is inspired by The Bloggess‘ latest post I have no fucking idea what I am doing which has inspired 500 (and counting) comments so far, including the three comments I’ve left there… *cough cough* yes, I am a comment hog…  I have been grappling with this question: Who am I? since high school, and […]


Remember to say I Love You

September 13, 2011 this i believe

This is an updated post from two years ago. I am bringing it up because 1) I had only one reader at that time, 2) StoryCorps recently posted an animated video to accompany a father’s recollection of 911 that I think everybody should listen to… So here it is… One thing about being a parent […]



September 10, 2011 this i believe

It’s always a bitter sweet experience now when flying into New York City. I catch my breath as Manhattan comes into view, New York!  New York! I sing to my self, but immediately recognize the void and the memories from ten years ago come flashing back. Filmmaker Dan Meth compiled all (or at least most) of the cameos […]



June 28, 2011 a picture is worth a thousand words

I had to travel to San Francisco this weekend, and therefore I had the good fortune of participating in the 41st San Francisco Pride Parade. My lucky star shone on me for I was able to drag Brilliant Sulk to walk in the pride with me. Yes you heard that right. WE. WALKED. IN. THE. […]


The Real American Idols

May 30, 2011 mark my word: twitter will doom us all

Source: I saw this cartoon via Paul Rieckhoff today.   My 13-year-old is working on a debate project for school. His topic? Support for Death Penalty. (He has turned in a written article against death penalty last week. The teacher wants them to be able to argue from both sides for the topic they are […]


Arms akimbo in the land of lotus eaters

April 16, 2011 therapy in session

This paragraph from A Visit From the Goon Squad by Jennifer Egan, which won the 2010 National Book Critics Circle Award (ETA: AND the 2011 Pulitzer Prize!) for fiction, is one of the most hauntingly vivid descriptions of a marriage that I have ever read. At the same time the description sounds clinical, meticulous, it strikes me […]


Things You Should Read

April 15, 2011 imho is just a polite way to say I know you don't give a hoot what I think but I'm going to say it anyway

Instead of reading my blog, here are two things I came across today that you should read over the weekend: From the New York Times, A Gay Former N.B.A. Player Responds to Kobe Bryant, by John Amaechi, who in 2007 was the first NBA player to come out. We have all heard that Kobe called […]


Mass at 5

January 30, 2011 no manual for parenting

Warning: According to my Blog Advisory System, this post is rated RED for The Touchiest of All Touchy Subjects. I wrote it last week but did not have the heart to publish it because I was worried about losing readership. In the end though, I have got to do what feels right by me and […]