be yourself

I have signed up for some training courses offered at work, one of them is called "How to present with confidence". Yes, at 40+, I still struggle with opening my mouth in front of a group larger than 5. It's a miracle that I even survived this many years in corporate America. Someone overheard me [...]

I’ve never been to me*

This post is inspired by The Bloggess' latest post I have no fucking idea what I am doing which has inspired 500 (and counting) comments so far, including the three comments I've left there... *cough cough* yes, I am a comment hog...  I have been grappling with this question: Who am I? since high school, and [...]

  When I saw the front page of the RedEye edition this Friday, I became out-of-proportionally indignant. I wanted to stand up in the middle of the commuter train, wave the newspaper in front of people and scream at the top of my lung: I am so fucking tired of this! Yes I am. I [...]

Can’t Hardly Wait

    Some random associations from a picture I took this Sunday. Budding. Can't hardly wait. Spring Awakening. Frank Wedekind Frank Wedekind who in 1906 gave us a play criticizing the sexually repressed society with depictions of group masturbation and other subjects that scandalized theatre goers. This quote attributed to Wedekind which made me chuckle [...]

Know thyself. Be thyself.

It is 2:03 am. I am all of a sudden wide awake. Note to self: Listening to PRI Selected Shorts podcasts while cleaning the house is a sure way that your mind will become overactive and that you will have trouble falling asleep. I will pay for this indulgence: lying down on my Therapy Couch [...]

What is your blog rated?

I have to say, and yes, the following reaction says a lot about my pretension, my secretly wanting to appear to be what I am not: edgy, devil may care, swashbuckling, avant garde, ground-breaking, cool, I WAS DISAPPOINTED MY BLOG WAS RATED WTF? I am seriously crushed. G? I would think it at least warranted a PG-13. [...]

For Chinese people or people in the know, American Born Chinese are known as ABC, and different from Chinese immigrants (be their parents or their distant cousins), they have to cope with a different set of tribulations, and many of these are psychological. This book, or rather, graphic novel, follows the tradition of Frank Chin's angry [...]

And it is not just a hat, nor is it a cowboy hat. It is a FEDORA.My 5 yo got a wool fedora for his upcoming 6th birthday. He has been wearing that hat ever since. People would comment on how cute he is, esp. when he tips his hat slightly, and say, "How'd you [...]

Son: Hey, do you know the name of my cane?Us: No. What?Son: John McCain!(Confession: he was, for the longest time, pro-McCain. There, I said it. He actually cried over this several times pre-election day. His mind was set on McCain because he saw a lot of the commercials by the GOP camp during the 2008 [...]

. Is it wrong to have hero worship towards a politician? Ever since the night of Nov. 4, I have been walking through the clouds. Elated, of course, but that feeling also comes from my disbelief that we actually did it. Or rather, he actually did it! And of course, we all know there is [...]